Starting 2017 with a bang.

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What does 2017 look like for me? Well one thing that I’m going to be doing in 2017 that I’ve already started is intentional planning. What does intentional  planning mean? Planning with a purpose. Planning times for connection with my kids, my husband, my family and myself. I’ll be writing about this more in detail in an upcoming blog post so stay tuned for that.

With the “new beginnings ” vibe of 2017, I’ve also dedicated myself to the active pursuit of my dreams and ideas. How many times have I just sat bogged down in my own thoughts and felt afraid to get started? I’m sure you’ve felt the same. So this year I’ll be dedicating myself to pursuing those ideas that I’ve been to afraid to pursue.

Another transformation I’ll be undertaking this year is the continued transformation of myself, to become closer to the best version of myself that I can be. I’ve already started by losing over 20lbs in the last five months.

2016 brought us a lot of fears, a lot of doubt and desperation. It’s so easy to think that we are trapped in this but we’re not. We create our own reality by choosing how to react to things every minute of every day. Right now we can either choose to continue to be fearful, or we can choose the freedom and the wonder that comes with knowing that everything will be all right and the life you imagined is waiting for you. I know what I’m going to be doing.

Stay tuned for more, Love always- My Pretty Place

The Self Help Author You’ve probably never heard of

Before the internet, before we had Oprah and her OWN channel giving us the latest spiritual book to read, us lonely individuals had to make do with reading books, not blogs, on spiritual health.

In 1998 I was an 18 year old single mom, trying to figure out my path in life. I was a young misunderstood, lonely, hurting woman child without a mom who turned to books to get me through difficult times.

Today while browsing at my local Goodwill I found one of these books that I enjoyed so much back then,  called Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy by Sarah Ban Breathnach.  This book is filled with 365 essays written by Sarah that address our spirit in a way that even though written in 1995, is still relevant today in many ways. I look forward to going through this as a woman now in my mid 30’s; so many things have changed and the issues I faced as a teenage mom are so different from what I face now as a working mom and wife.

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Adultery by Paulo Coelho

It seems to me that there is theme popping up, where women my age are experiencing some type of mid-life crisis. From the character in the movies I’ve been watching lately to the books I’ve been reading, to myself included it’s as if we women are facing some type of emotional and spiritual crisis that are corresponding to this time in history  where we are told to go and get what we want out of life, and we start pursuing our dreams and then when we have all that we ever wanted, we are left wanting more, not sure if this is it, feeling bad about not having a next goal and not being able to enjoy what we have.

This is a book about love, about relationships, about self sabotage at its worst, and about how it feels to take what you want even though you know it can only hurt you. I imagine that men feel this way too, but this book is from a woman’s perspective. This book spoke to me on so many levels, and it touched me. It also filled me with a hope. One of the things that I love so much about books is that you can experience another life through them. When you read a good book that experience becomes your own as your mind plays it out. it’s all inside your head and all the players have the faces you give them so it’s a highly personal experience because you have given them their looks, their features, their characters, their ideas. The writer writes them out for you but what he gives you is the play, and your mind gives you the actors. And all actors brings themselves to their roles so you bring yourself to these characters and even though you read a book that millions of other have read, your experience is completely different for you. Read this book. Read about a woman taking what she wants the way men often do, without penalty, without loss. See what she gains and what you gain too from this experience.